Shoes: 1st pair Asos, 2nd pair Steve Madden
Sunglasses: Giant Vintage
Feminasty shirt: Auroralady
My friend Aurora designed this shirt. Do you know Aurora? Maybe you know her as Aurora Lady. She's a California based artist, stylist, and shit kicking fun and crazy feminist badass.
I bought this Feminasty shirt from her shop because Jesus, what a perfect sentiment. Feminism is the simple notion that women should have the same rights, opportunities, and freedoms as men. It's not anti-sex. It's not anti-silliness. It's not anti-hearts-and-flowers-and-pink. Look, I'm not putting words in anybody else's mouth, but to me, true feminism means I can be everything. I can be hard and calculated and powerful. I can be hairy and loud and unapologetically in charge. And I can also be demure, flirtatious, beautiful. I can enjoy being desired. I can be outrageous, I can be sexual, I can be glamorous, I can be downright freaky and nasty if I want. You starting to freak out? Well, get this -- I can even enjoy being the subject of the male gaze, motherfuckers. I should be able to do all of it because NONE OF IT NEGATES MY INTELLIGENCE OR MY DIGNITY.
What the fuck kind of backwards, narrow-minded, Puritanical culture do we live in where this even needs to be stated out loud? Are there really people out there who believe if a woman likes being hot, that means it's okay for you to think there is NOTHING else about her that's worthy of note? ASININE. Are there seriously folks who need it explained to them that a woman can be happy that you find her desirable, but that still doesn't mean you automatically get to have sex with her? FUCKING LUDICROUS. But of course there are those people out there, there are countless hordes of them, screaming loudly. They're screaming louder by the minute because they know the sun is setting on their dumbass reductionist world. Goodnight, assholes. History is already wincing and shaking its head about you existing.
So hey, let's try employing more than a toddler's level of black and white thinking. Here's an example: I don't think young girls should be taught by the commercial media to see themselves as sexual objects before they've had the chance to develop their own healthy adult sexualities. That doesn't mean I think a fully grown woman doesn't have the God given right to revel in her own sexuality without shame. Starting to see the light? Okay, try out this intellectual exercise: The fact that women have historically been dehumanized and sexually objectified doesn't mean that for the rest of time, being a sexual object automatically means being dehumanized. It means society needs to grow the fuck up. There is no reason for these two conceits to be inherently, causally connected. The idea that a woman has to pay for the privilege of you liking the way she looks by sacrificing her respect and safety is just straight up, old school boneheaded, and kids walking the halls of today's elementary schools will hear it the way we heard about 15th century doctors drilling holes in people's heads to let the demons out. How about it's just wrong to dehumanize people? How about making a dude pop a boner cedes ZERO GROUND to the patriarchy? Because when jerks try to use that as a reason to treat a woman with less dignity and respect, that's them being shitheads.
So yeah, when I wear this shirt, that's what I think of. Society evolving into an entity that doesn't tolerate shithead behavior right before our eyes, moving too slippery and fast even for the corporate and political powerbrokers to stop it. Thanks, Aurora.